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7 Ways to Feel Better About Your Child's Food Allergy

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You just found out your child has a severe food allergy. This probably sounds scary; maybe you’re wondering how you will manage and if your child will be okay.

“For some families, learning your child has a food allergy can be extremely anxiety-provoking,” says Jane Robinson, PhD, a pediatric psychologist at Children’s Hospital Colorado.

Thankfully, this stress usually decreases with time. Here are seven other things Dr. Robinson says can help parents and kids cope with a food allergy:

  1. Know what your child can handle for their age and development

    Determining what your child can handle will help you decide where you need to be involved and what you can teach them. The goal, Dr. Robinson says, is that by the time they are a young adult, they will be able to manage their allergy on their own.

    Parents can assess their child’s ability to manage their allergy based on three questions:

    • Can they be responsible for having their medication available at all times?
    • Can they assess their own symptoms (and tell someone, if needed)?
    • Can they self-administer their auto injector (i.e. epi pen)?

    For example, a 5-year-old is probably not old enough to tell their teacher where their medication is located. But an 10- or 11-year-old should be mature enough to carry their auto injector with them wherever they go.

  2. Role play with younger children
    Teach children how to communicate with others about their allergy. Say something like, “If I’m Michael’s mom and I bring cupcakes for his birthday, what will you do to be safe?” You can create practice scenarios for many situations, like what to do if the child accidentally ingests the allergy-inducing food.
  3. Engage with your school about a food allergy plan
    As soon as possible, discuss with your child’s teacher how to create a safe environment in the classroom. This doesn’t always mean an allergy-free room; it might mean that your family gives a classroom presentation or sends a letter to other parents making them aware of the allergy. Also make sure you give the teacher a food allergy action plan, which your child’s doctor should provide to you.
  4. Encourage your child to tell others that they have an allergy
    The more people in your life who are aware of your child’s allergy, the safer your child will be. Dr. Robinson encourages children to tell teachers, friends and other parents about their food allergy. It can be simple as, “I can’t have any food with peanuts in it because I’m allergic to them.”
  5. Teach them to read food labels
    By the time your child is around age 8, you can teach them to check labels for the food specific to their allergy. Set the expectation that once they know how to read a label, they should read them every time they try a new food. If there is no label, and they don’t know what’s in the food, they shouldn’t eat it.
  6. Include the other siblings
    Sometimes other siblings have strong feelings about the food allergy. They might be mad that you don’t keep peanut butter in the house or don’t eat at a certain restaurant. Sometimes they might feel left out. Model flexible problem solving by trying alternative products such as coconut milk (for a dairy allergy) or packaged, frozen peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (for a peanut allergy). You could also have one parent take just that sibling to the restaurant of their choice for a special meal.
  7. Keep an eye on your own stress
    When you’re stressed, your kids will be stressed, and that can make it more difficult for everyone to feel confident about managing the allergy. Recognize where your anxiety lies. Are you afraid that something will happen to your child? Are you angry at the way others respond to your child’s allergy? Are you frustrated because you and your partner don’t agree on the best way to manage it? Identifying the source of your stress will help you figure out ways to tackle it. Be proactive about educating yourself and your family. Keep communication open with doctors, school personnel, family and friends.

It can also help to connect with other parents through a support group, such as FARE.

And remember, Dr. Robinson says, “There’s a huge group of people out there managing their food allergies perfectly.”

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